[rēfrā′ming]

changing the conceptual and/or emotional viewpoint in relation to which a situation is experienced and placing it in a different frame that fits the “facts” of a concrete situation equally well, thereby changing its entire meaning.

We know to our core that we must reframe this loss: the loss of our child…loss of a brother…loss of a nephew…loss of a grandchild…loss of a friend… loss of a student…loss of a friend…loss of a difference maker. We have done our best to reframe our counting, but we must stretch beyond that to fill this incredible void. We can’t continue to wallow in this tragedy as we know that is not what Jack Paris would want.  We know better, but flounder to determine what to do with our energy and love.  Our What If’s begin to take over our thoughts. What If we could honor Jack by following his example of showing up for people? What if we could somehow share the money and time he was willing to share? It sounds so big to us…a foundation is what this is called according to the community leaders that understand our inquiries. Too intimidating, we need time to work through this grief, so the idea goes in a box for another day.  As we put one foot in front of another, we are approached by others that knew Jack and are trying to love us through this and they bring forth this foundation idea. We acknowledge, say we have thought about it, put it back in the box.  Then smack, three different people- unknown to each other- reach out in the same week, literally unboxing this foundation idea. This loss is reframed and the #loveBIG Foundation is born.